Guide to dating black woman
This video, although disgusting, wasn’t in any shape or form shocking.
Could it be that woke white men are more inclined to appreciate darker-skinned women than black men?
Women in Haiti, Peru, Cameroon and the Dominican Republic all threw themselves at his feet – so who the hell was I to refuse him?
In my experience, these dynamics with non-black men usually play into one of two narratives: fetishisation or vilification. If gaslighting were an Olympic sport then white men who refuse to own the racialised responsibilities of dating outside of their race would be awarded a collective gold medal.
More time than I care to recall, I’m either playing an unwitting role in helping a completely mediocre white guy who’s grown up on really bad hip hop realise his life-long dream of having a sassy black girl on his arm to raise his social capital, or I terrify him with my muscular physique and razor sharp retorts, causing him (or worse, his family) to question their fragile self-image as the spectacular white saviours society has raised them to be. In Australia, I found myself completely at odds with the dating environment, where I was treated more like an exotic curiosity than a human being with a job, thoughts, or feelings.
Not that this makes me progressive in any way - I don’t wear my dating history as a certification of my bleeding leftist ideology.
But if it hadn’t been for these experiences, I would be so much poorer in my understanding of love, acceptance and kindness – not because of where they came from or the colour of their skin, but because of who they were.