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And who she is blowing off, rejecting, or friend-zoning.And I say this as someone who has had abysmal luck at dating! Rather, I have found near-misses, nice guys who were better off as friends, nice guys who didn’t have time for a relationship, the guy who chose the crazy chick over me, confused dudes, just not my type dudes, not-ready-to-date-yet guys, and jerks.She has gone out on at least 100 first dates, interacted with over 1000 guys, and reviewed at least 10000 profiles.If there was a Masters in Online Dating, Bonnie’s earned it.By the time the jerk’s true colors start to show, their lives are already enmeshed and the datee probably has strong feelings.I have more sympathy for those who were duped by the deceitful jerk than those who intentionally decided to date the obvious crazy chick or bad boy.At least give a few of those women/men a chance as an opportunity for you to grow into a new, potentially healthier dating phase.
I realized today that the concept of the “crazy chick” and the “nice guy” are opposite sides of the coin. On the flip side, we hear women complaining about the inability to find nice guys. At worst, guys are jerks, users, and incapable of being faithful. ”Nice guys: “We’re here, but you ignore or friend zone us.”I think some women are drawn to bad boys; buff ego-maniacs; and/or larger than life narcissists.
The guys may not stick around long, but there are always options for these women. As I’ve mentioned in a previous story, I think one of the main reasons men date crazy chicks is something they don’t even realize: When a guy dates the crazy chick and the relationship invariably unravels, the guy can take zero accountability. Like the I-always-seem-to-date-a-crazy-chick clueless guy, the I-always-seem-to-end-up-with-a-jerk clueless woman exists, too. Perhaps she mistakes control and dominance for love. Usually, the crazy girl is incapable of hiding her crazy. Usually a guy dating a crazy girl knows it within a few dates (if not the very first date).
Crazy chicks aren’t usually single for long even if most of their “relationships” tend to be short-lived. There are multiple reasons a woman is making that choice. I think a bad boy resembles the crazy girl in that he usually owns his love ’em-and-leave ’em MO from the get-go.
This means: (1) That Bonnie is a failure at dating AND (2) She’s accumulated a lot of experiences and knowledge about the dating landscape for middle-aged chicks in Austin.
I came to realize that the road map I had been using my entire life was extremely flawed and incapable of helping me get what I wanted. I want to thank you in advance for the changes that are coming.