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However, be extra careful in not expressing any judgment of any type (health, money, you name it) and be tactful ("If you don't mind, can I ask you..." / "You can not answer if you're not comfortable with it, but..." etc). As for the type of compromise to reach for when you're together, ask them what's their suggestion: Maybe you'll find out that if you go and eat Chinese food, then the cigarette is just compulsory, but not if you just go to a park (just making these up), and you two will decide to postpone the Chinese food night for a while. Being with other smokers is a big push towards smoking, whereas being with a nonsmoker whom you care about is a good reason to just postpone a little bit that one cigarette. There are other minor details, like keeping cigarillos handy if I'm going to be around heavy cigarette smokers (I find the cigarillo smoke less bothersome, especially compared to menthols), but suffice it to say I smoke infrequently enough that for medical purposes, I'm considered effectively a non-smoker.
She ended up just forgetting smoking when we're together :). But if asked in a dating profile, I'd put "sometimes" so didn't appear dishonest or mislead someone who has a strong objection to smoking. I would treat this like you would any other part of someone's character.
Now I've recently found myself interested in someone who smokes "sometimes" (whatever that means).
Ideally I would like to find out: So, how can I find out how important smoking is to them and ask them to not smoke around me considering all of the above?
Every cigarette is different: there is the one you smoke while waiting for another person, the one for when you're bored, or nervous, or drinking alcohol, or the one after coffee.
Spending too much time around smoke can also give me a headache.
I might have hyperosmia (a heightened sensitivity to smell) - the smell of smoke isn't the only smell I have a problem with, but it tends to be the most consistently problematic.
I'd argue if that's the case, you might want to reconsider whether or not you're actually comfortable with dating a "sometimes" smoker.
Think about it this way: If someone had a few drinks, or even a few drinks on an outing, would you immediately become concerned and question them about it?