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Bruk also expresses her surprise at “disintegration of male hygiene and work ethics”, citing the poor gender ratios as the reason.
From the same book, rape is something that “happens”, and is accepted as a fact of life, not a social problem, she recounts. The roots are in the hunter-prey dating model, prescribing to males to push to the limit.
“If he hits you, that means he loves you,” quotes Diana her mother’s saying, the old-fashioned Slavic belief, which is the reason why domestic violence in Russia is still widely underreported — as well as most other forms of physical assault, making it a “norm” rather than a crime.
Calling her relationship with Russian men “convoluted”, the daring New-Yorker goes on describing the peculiarities of the local dating etiquette.
(Today young girls are wearing flats more often and style “casual” incorporating torn jeans and Converse sneakers is becoming a new fashion fad, so you may not see Russian ladies in compulsory high heels for much longer.) “These insurmountable standards of beauty can largely be credited to the fact that there are more women than men,” admits Bruk.
She grew up in the States but due to her heritage speaks fluent Russian.
Her confession about dating Russian men is a must read for anyone wondering about courtship customs and rituals in the countries of the post-USSR.
(We are never happy with what we are getting, are we?
) Diana Bruk is a young American woman who was born in Russia and moved to the Big Apple at the age of 5 with her family.